Excerpts from the interview:
Q:
People continue to question your right to take over Sanjay's life?
A: I know, but what I want to say is that I've the right to live
with my husband the way I want to. It doesn't matter whether it's
a prostitute or a princess, a wife has certain rights in her husband's
home. I'm not a man living in a woman's house.
Q: Sanjay has said girls shouldn't stick to their father's
name after marriage.
A: That's his personal opinion. Sanju would've been offended
and insulted if I had continued using my father's name. If other
wives want to use their maiden names, it's their choice. He feels
it is a fashion to do so these days. He has the right to an opinion.
Q: What's your take on this?
A: Having a married a man who takes care of all my needs, I'd
like to accept his name with full honour and take charge of his
home and accept his family as my family. If you can't accept your
husband's name and family then why marry? Go in for a live-in
relationship. Mrs. Indira Gandhi was married to Feroz Gandhi,
someone not as famous as the Nehrus. But she didn't fight all
those glorious battles as 'Indira Nehru'. And now Priyanka calls
herself a Vadra after her husband (Robert Vadra), not a Gandhi.
Q: Over a year since your marriage and Sanjay's sisters
haven't accepted you?
A: I'm not someone to push for acceptance. I have never nagged
Sanju for anything. I leave space for options. Sanju knows I've
tried to do as much in my capacity to find acceptance with his
sisters. Beyond that he wouldn't like me to push myself to try
any further. Neither would I.
Q: You've been attacked from the time you married Sanjay?
A: I'll tell you something, wherever there's power, there's bound
to be a lot of conspiracy hovering around that source of power.
And let's fact it, Sanju is very powerful. Every producer wants
to work with him.
Sanjay never understood the nitty-gritty of finances. And if
he hasn't accumulated a huge bank balance, it isn't because he
hasn't earned money. He did, but he lost all of it. There were
too many people around him trying to use him. I came like a barricade
in Sanju's life to stand between him and those who want to use
him. Naturally, these fair-weather friends resent me. I spoilt
their party, you see.
Q: You refuse to speak against Sanjay's family although
they speak against you?
A: I am a woman and I am Sanju's wife. It does hurt me. But I
keep a dignified silence because firstly, my parents have brought
me up to believe it's undignified to hit out at people publicly.
Secondly, it's my husband's family and he loves them. So for his
sake I wouldn't like to hurt him by saying anything. Finally,
I think keeping quiet under attack is far more courageous than
attacking someone.
Q: But how much will you take?
A: At no point of time, no matter what the provocation, I don't
want to wash my dirty linen in public. I'm not that kind of person.
People think I'm arrogant and rude. The fact is I'm very reserved
by nature. I only open up with people I gel with. I speak straight
from my heart.
Q: But silence beyond a point is misconstrued as guilt.
A: Let people draw what conclusion they want. I know what I'm
doing in Sanju's life. I'm a silent observer. I know exactly whom
I want in life. I'll stand by them even when they are disowned
by the world. As for the ones I don't want in my life, I don't
even want to cross their path.
Q: Sanjay had so many girlfriends, but he found a homemaker
in you?
A: But it's not as if I only look after his home. I also look
after Sanjay Dutt Productions. We decided he'd produce his own
films to make sure the downslide doesn't take him by surprise.
Let's face it. Sanju is a superstar, but he isn't Amitabh Bachchan.
Even Amitji went through a downslide. Every actor goes through
it and then he reappears in smaller roles. I don't want that to
happen to Sanju. As it is, he hasn't secured his bank balance.
We jointly decided to start our production house, so we could
generate the kind of work that Sanju deserves. I look after the
finances of the production house, Sanju looks after the creative
aspects. He has 30 years of experience. The production plans give
me a big high.
Q: How have you controlled his finances?
A: I wouldn't like to name them, but some people for whom Sanju
was taking on unnecessary expenses have been stopped. Sanju was
implementing financial responsibilities that were not his. That
has also made some people hate me. But his finances were being
handled by the wrong people. There were so many irregularities
in his accounts. If I open my mouth about it, no one will be spared.
Q: Has Sanjay brought stability to your life?
A: Oh yes. I've never been happier. Sanju has stood by me through
thick and thin. I've known him for nine years. We started seeing
each other seriously in 2005. But he knew my past. So when 'friends'
tried to provoke him he just laughed it off. He knew everything
about me. When I was going through hell before my marriage, I'd
pick up the phone and ask him for help. We're both very positive
people and we like to live and let live. We both believe in forgiving.
And we believe every saint can have a past. And every sinner can
have a future.
Q: When do you start a family?
A: Please pray hard and tell everyone to pray.
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